From the start of the relationship, she felt completely at ease, although she didn't immediately define herself as a lesbian. But what about the deeper, more mature love that allows for the wide spectrum of experience and truth? Like most spouses, Ned and Gerry had their ups and downs, but they always considered their marriage rock-solid. A physical relationship of 12 years ensued. So connections with women are very different to connections between women and men. We had lots in common, and eventually I realised I didn't have that with men. During that time, Diamond discovered, a significant number of the women had reported changing their sexual orientation.
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Why it's never too late to be a lesbian
The psychotherapist and writer, Susie Orbachspent more than 30 years with the writer Joseph Schwartz, and had two children with him, before the partnership ended, and she subsequently formed a happy, ongoing relationship with the novelist Jeanette Winterson. Then she met Susan. Recently, I interviewed two people who went through this sexual upheaval late in life themselves. Those coming out in their 30s and beyond often find it difficult for family members to transition past the perceived reality of who they thought their child, brother or sister was. I began negotiating for a divorce, and my husband was completely thrown.